You’ve got a match – now what? The first message often feels harder than it is. With a little attention, an empty chat window turns into a conversation you’ll both look forward to.
Why “Hey” isn’t enough
A simple “Hey” or “How are you?” gives the other person little to respond to. A personal message, on the other hand, shows: I’ve really looked at your profile.
How to get started
- Refer to their profile: “You’ve been to Lisbon? Which place did you like best there?”
- Open questions: Questions starting with “What”, “How” or “Why” invite them to tell you more.
- A touch of humor: A light, friendly remark lifts the mood.
- Keep it short: Two or three sentences are enough. A novel can be overwhelming.
Tip: On FoundMyLove you can write in your own language – that makes it easier to meet people from all over the world.
Examples that work
- “Your photo by the sea looks beautiful – are you more of a beach person or a mountain person?”
- “I see you love cooking. What’s your signature dish that impresses everyone?”
- “We both have ‘travel’ as a hobby. Which country is next on your list?”
What to avoid
- Compliments that are only about looks
- Copy-and-paste messages sent to lots of people
- Overly personal questions right at the start
- Several messages in a row when you haven’t had a reply yet
Conclusion
A good first message is personal, friendly and curious. It shows genuine interest – and opens the door to a conversation that might turn into something more.