The vast majority of people in online dating are honestly looking for love. Unfortunately, there are also scammers who exploit feelings to get money. This is called “love scamming” or a “romance scam”. If you know the typical patterns, you can protect yourself well.
Typical warning signs
- Love at first click: After just a few messages come big words like “soulmate” or “I’ve never felt like this before”.
- No video call: There’s always an excuse for why the camera isn’t working right now.
- A quick switch: The person wants to move to another messenger straight away.
- Too perfect: Model photos, a glamorous job abroad, a tragic story.
- A sudden emergency: An accident, customs fees, a frozen account – and you’re supposed to help.
The most important rule: Never transfer money, gift cards or cryptocurrency to someone you don’t know personally.
How to check a profile
- Ask for a short video call before feelings grow too strong.
- Pay attention to whether the details in the profile and in messages match.
- Be careful if you’re asked questions about your income or possessions.
- Talk to friends about it – an outside perspective helps.
If you have a suspicion
- Cut off contact and don’t send any money.
- Report the profile to FoundMyLove so we can check it.
- Keep the messages as evidence.
- If you’ve already transferred money, contact your bank and the police.
Conclusion
There’s no need for shame – scammers are skilled, and it can happen to anyone. If you stay alert and say a clear no when money comes up, you protect yourself effectively. Real love doesn’t ask for money.